We’ve all been there before. Sometimes, the heart chooses what common sense says we should run from. And when the party’s over, we’re probably more hurt by the bruised ego of having made a bad decision that everyone judges us for than by the actual heartbreak.

And in her new song, Sabrina Carpenter illustrates it ridiculously well.

Hitting the nail on the head

Carpenter’s new song, “Please Please Please,” co-written with frequent collaborator Amy Allen, is more than an opener for her upcoming album. It’s a painfully accurate description of what matters after a lousy love decision.

It’s about being in love with someone others disapprove of—something any Latina who has introduced her boyfriend to the family can relate to.

“I know I have good judgment. I know I have good taste. It’s funny and it’s ironic that only I feel that way,” she sings. “I promise ’em that you’re different, and everyone makes mistakes. But just don’t. I heard that you’re an actor, so act like a stand-up guy. Whatever devil’s inside you, don’t let him out tonight.”

The question then is one: is ego more important than heartbreak?

“Heartbreak is one thing, my ego’s another,” Sabrina Carpenter continues. “I beg you, don’t embarrass me, motherf—er.”

In the ABBA-coded song, the 25-year-old singer illustrates the consequences of choosing a partner against the best of judgment. She also discusses the argument that often has to be made in front of our friends and family once the warnings become true.

Social media users have chimed in

“I still [think] heartbreak is worse,” said one user. “This is so real,” said another.


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♬ original sound – Nichole

“Getting your heart broken is one thing,” Cata Benderesky said in a post on TikTok. You can process it privately and with your friends and family. But being publicly humiliated by being unfaithful or making you look bad is worse.”

“The shame after being humiliated by the person you loved is horrible,” she adds.

“Sabrina Carpenter really hit the nail on the f-cking head,” said Kayla Michelle Fisher. “Because if you break my heart, it is fine, whatever. We thrive; we survive. But if you embarrass me in front of my friends… oh, hell no.”

And you? What do you think? Is ego more important than heartbreak?